A Meditation On Love

Thank you for joining me last month my first guest radio host spot onĀ Lessons in Joyful Living!

It was so much fun and I’m looking forward to three more shows this year!

In case you missed the show, you can download the MP3 for your listening pleasureĀ here.

As promised here’s a copy of the guided meditation on love I took us through on the program:

First of all let’s find a comfortable seat. It doesn’t matter if it’s a chair or a cushion on the floor, just make sure you can sit with a straight spine.

Check your posture. Straighten and lengthen your spine. If you’re sitting in a chair, make sure your feet are firmly planted on the floor. You can let your hands rest gently on your thighs.

Your shoulders should be wide like the wings of bird ready to fly. Keep your eyes slightly open, jaw relaxed, tongue lightly touching the roof of your mouth.

Bring your awareness now to your breath. Notice the rising and falling of your chest and abdomen. Let yourself relax into the breath’s natural rhythm.

You can mentally scan your body if you like, paying special attention to areas of pain or tension. Try to simply notice these then let the muscles relax as best you can.

You’re now in a state of calm, focused awareness. Even if thoughts and worries come into your mind, you can just notice them and let them go.

Let’s bring our awareness now to the object of today’s meditation by asking this question:

Do I really love myself? Do I hold myself in high enough esteem to allow myself to be truly happy and live a life of purpose and meaning?

To answer this, take a few moments to examine how you relate to yourself on a daily basis.

How do you speak to yourself when you face challenges and difficulties? How do you view your shortcomings? When you make mistakes, what kinds of things do you say to yourself?

Be honest. Many of us are very hard on ourselves. We say horrible things to ourselves that we probably wouldn’t even say to our worst enemies.

Don’t worry. You’re not alone in treating yourself this way so you don’t have to beat yourself any more than you already do.

Relax and remind yourself that you can change any pattern you want to in your life and you’re going to start right here. Today, at this moment you’re going to take a positive step to change how you see and treat yourself.

First of all, look at who you really are. Often times we exaggerate our good and bad qualities to the point that they’re not even close to the reality.

Take some time here to closely examine your negative qualities and shortcomings, the ones that you really get down on yourself about.

Maybe you think you’re fat, not good looking enough, lazy, stupid, worthless?

When we’re viewing ourselves without love it sometimes seems that we are only that thing that we despise. There’s no room for anything else and we only see ourselves in that negative light.

But is this really true?

It may be true that you’re overweight, for example, but is that all you are? Is that the only quality that defines you as a human being?

Of course not.

You have many qualities that make you a complete person, that make you whole.

Take a look at some of them.

Are you kind, patient, funny, easy to talk to, diligent, reliable, honest?

No one who’s ever lived has been completely devoid of good qualities. This includes you.

Take a moment to recognize those good, positive traits. Rejoice in them, celebrate them. Allow yourself to see your own value as a human being.

Let that feeling of warmth and love for yourself fill your whole being.

Tell yourself, “I am worthy of happiness. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of living a life of purpose and meaning. From today forward I will make a greater effort to see myself realistically, to be kind to myself, to respect myself and give myself every chance to improve where I can and to accept my shortcomings with patience and dignity.”

Now rest in this feeling of love for yourself. Let it linger for as long as it does.

Slowly come out of the meditation. Open your eyes.

Now, if you like, you can do a dedication for this practice. Make the wishing aspiration that all the positive energy you’ve created result in happiness and ultimate spiritual awakening for yourself and all beings.”

I hope you enjoyed this meditation on love and that you got something valuable out of it.

Thanks for listening and may you be well and happy.

About Chris Lemig

In 2007 I finally came out to family and friends as being gay. After twenty-three years of drug and alcohol addiction, I got sober, picked up a book on Buddhism then promptly bought a plane ticket to India. The Narrow Way is the story of how all that came to be.
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2 Responses to A Meditation On Love

  1. Buddhacrone says:

    Thank you for this one, Chris. It is exactly what I need right now.

  2. Jeannette says:

    Magnificent! Hearing your soothing voice on the radio was especially peaceful and life affirming, but seeing the words today was a great reminder of how important it is to love ourselves and let go of all the self-criticism. This is a meditation I could benefit from every day! Thank you, Chris!

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